Can I get your point of view plz?

At the age of 28 I have begun attending church groups in the last month.





On the first night I met a 25 yo lady who seemed to want to talk to me. We were having a good conversation but since it was getting late I cut it off.





When I saw her next she asked for my email and phone number so she could send me more info about the group, which she did via email - why did she need my phone number? but anyway..





there was an activity day last weekend where I saw her again. She was dressed up with nice shoes. I didn%26#039;t talk to her much as I wanted to meet the other people. On my way leaving the church I saw her waiting around with her friends she told me we can have coffee to discuss anything. I didn%26#039;t think much about it at that time so I politely suggested a lift home if she was stuck, said goodbye and left.





She has crossed my mind since so I need to hook up with her. I don%26#039;t know what is appropriate behaviour in these spiritual situations?

Can I get your point of view plz?
Keep within appropriate boundaries and you should be fine... there%26#039;s nothing wrong with dating even in a spiritual situation.
Reply:Gather a few friends for a bible sharing and maybe after that go for tea or coffee to chit chat about other things. Go casual and it should be fine.
Reply:Take her up on the offer of coffee. Talk and get to know her. You might have made a connection or maybe she is just being nice. You will never know unless you take the first step.
Reply:you must have heard the story about a corrupt official who was tranfered to sea shore to count sea waves only so that he could not do any mal practices However he started extortingmoney from people who came to sea side on the pretext of obstructing the official duty of counting waves


So one can always find ways and means to do whatever he wants irrespective of place or enviorment


You are no more a kid now You know whats wrong and whats not wrong Please do not fool us


it is clear you would continue to do what you have in your mind


Please do not seek any moral justification for your ulterior motives
Reply:Well a religious woman will be a little off from what you probably want. The church members are there spiritually for each other....not physically. I am afraid you are misreading the woman--she wants to make you comfortable in the enclave of the church----in the ring so to speak. if that is what you want, then you can discuss the bible or anything along those lines. Socially and religiously this woman is church first...nothing wrong with that---but if you are looking for something else, you better try another group. She probably had a life outside the church--felt lost and found a group that has no demands and she is rewarded with solace and faith.
Reply:She is obviously interested in you and spirituality seems to be the least emphasized consideration in your question. Meeting at a %26quot;church%26quot; does not indicate spiritualiyt; it indicates geograpy. With modern slang being what it is, I doubt the sincerity of anyone wanting to %26quot;hook-up%26quot;. But the direct approach is the most honest.
Reply:this doesnt need to be a spiritUAl thing :) attraction is normal and it happens.. go with it
Reply:Do it the way she tried to do it!!!! Ask her to have some coffee with you...
Reply:Why are you so worried? Clearly, she is interested in getting to know you. Theres nothing wrong with %26quot;hooking up%26quot; with someone from your Church...it happens all the time. After your next group you should ask her if she would like to get some coffee or dessert with you to %26quot;chat%26quot;.
Reply:She is keen on you, no doubt...especially as she offered to have coffee to discuss %26quot;anything%26quot; with you... just be cool about it- if you have her number call her and casually ask for that coffee date! Which will imply more than just a friendly conversation.... If you take your time and let her lead you may get what you want from this. (Although at first I am sure you were not interested in her - what changed it for you? the nice shoes? )





Dont think that because she is a %26quot;churchie%26quot; she is not out for a lover, infact my parents have suggested this as a %26quot;fish tank%26quot; to me several times - everyone knows there is trash in night clubs and bars but you just may find someone decent and respectable at a church group. GO for it, you have nothing to lose.



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