Parents' advice? my son strips in his child care and they are shocked?

I laughed a lot when they complained, but still I%26#039;ve got a problem. My 3-year-old son is very temperamental. Whenever he doesn%26#039;t like anything, he demonstrates it. A month ago he would spit at his teachers and hit them. We are done with this phase, but have a new developement. Now he takes all his clothes off including underwear. Starts with his shoes, then socks, if he doesn%26#039;t get what he wants, then pants go off etc. Not such a big deal from my point of view, but his teachers are quite impressed.





Any practical ideas how to treat it? My usual method to pay no attention will not work. As I said, the ladies at his child care are shocked and they start dressing him asap, so he%26#039;s getting all the attention he needs.





P.S. I wish I had a husband with a temperament like that, but I%26#039;m blessed with a son :)

Parents%26#039; advice? my son strips in his child care and they are shocked?
what do you mean not that big of deal from your point of view?


so you wouldnt mind if one of the daughters from your sons class went home and complained to the parents that she saw so and so%26#039;s privates in the middle of the classroom and the parents went straight to the person in charge of the daycare and the teachers got fired for not doing thier job.


It can very well happen and though you may find this funny but your whole attitude is probaly what feeds his creative tantrums.


not sure how he is able to get all of his clothes off without being stopped but he is definatly old and mature enough for timeouts and if he wants to strip then he can do it in the bathroom but dont listen to what he wants and dont let him come out until he has dressed himself and decided to what he is supposed to be doing.


(had kids like this before and this works for them as they dont like being ignored and will quickly comply when the choice is thiers to make) stand in bathroom naked or do what is asked


hmm....what a decision.


good luck with this
Reply:you should whoop his a.s.s
Reply:maybe some time out a wee biot more dicipline, Dont hit him though i dont believ in that! or when hes about to throw a temper try and distract him with something he likes doing or eating. its normally terrible 2s not terrible 3s, so try and get him out of that habbit.
Reply:Actually children at 2 to 3 years of age like putting on and taking off their clothes to show their independence. It can be something fun for them as well.


However, in this case, my opinion is that your son is seeking attention. Whenever he doesn%26#039;t get his way, he starts stripping and I think that becomes a discipline problem. It is ok if he strips at the child care but you do not want him to do this at the shopping centre.


So I suggest that the next time he strips at the child care centre, tell the teachers not to put on his clothes for him. Then say things like %26quot;We are going outdoors....but you need to stay back because you are not dressed.%26quot; Then wait and see what his reaction is.


I must agree that we must not see it as trivial. If he runs around naked at home....well it may be ok....but it is not ok for him to strip in any other place.
Reply:LOL! Well, he%26#039;s getting the results he wants, isn%26#039;t he? If it were my child, I would confer with the daycare director and his teacher and see what they use for discipline ( i.e. timeouts, alone time, loss of privileges, etc.). If it were my child, I would have his teacher dress him, yes, of course.... because he%26#039;s in daycare. But then I would have him put on a timeout chair immediately afterward (EVERY TIME, without fail!) while having them tell him that it%26#039;s not okay to undress in front of everybody because bodies are special and should be covered. He%26#039;ll get the picture.
Reply:in my opinion, a 3 yr old should know better than to do that. i worked in a daycare and 1-2 yr olds do things like that. but at three years old he should be able to be taught that that is wrong and he shouldn%26#039;t do it.
Reply:I%26#039;d be far more concerned with the spitting and hitting. That behaviour is intolerable.





All things considered, I can understand why a childcare facility is concerned with a child who strips. It%26#039;s fairly common with ill-behaved boys at that age. Personally, I%26#039;d dress him, explain that he must wear clothes in public, and then put him in the corner for a few minutes, to make it stick.





My girl would try to streak the neighborhood, when she was two. I had to make a big deal out of wearing clothes, when one goes outside. No more running around the house nekkid. That included Mom and Dad.





Twenty-five years later, I live alone and I still can%26#039;t run around nekkid. Too many people with keys.
Reply:its really hard because if you are at home i would also say ignore him but obviously they need to get him dressed.i hear of loads of kids stripping off.lol.they just dont care do they.they could try sitting him in his own so he experiances boredom due to getting undressed and tell him once he get dressed or lets them dress him he will have to stay their.i hope i dont see him running across a football pich in years to come.lol
Reply:Hehehe..I%26#039;m with you; his being nude isn%26#039;t a big deal. They are giving him the attention he wants.


To fix it: Could they perhaps send him for a break when he does this and tell him that when he%26#039;s ready to put his clothes back on, he can be done with his break? I don%26#039;t like the %26quot;timeout%26quot; thing, but taking a %26quot;break%26quot; may be easier for him to understand...he won%26#039;t be getting attention until his behavior is positive (clothes on!). And if he could help put his clothes on (socks or pants), then big happy rewarding words, you know?


Another strategy might be for them to play dress up games with the kids, or have a dress up box that the kids could use during free play. Then they can positively encourage him when he%26#039;s ADDING clothes, not chastise him (again, giving attention) when he%26#039;s taking them off.


Good luck, and have fun with that spirited little guy!
Reply:hahahahaha. i love your husband comment...


I%26#039;m more worried about the hitting. Seems like he%26#039;s acting out. Does he like his chilcare?





Have you talked to him about it? Explain its not appropriate behavior for a big boy, and how he%26#039;s too old to be naked in public, etc. Try punishment with a coveted toy or TV show (but never a lovey). Do the whole %26quot;choice%26quot; thing. You can choose to be a big boy and use words to express your feelings, or you can choose to take off your clothes when you are mad, in which case you will loose your TV privledges for one day. Then its on him to behave. Makes him think he%26#039;s in control. But make sure to follow thru, and if he says why he%26#039;s upset, cater to it. Like, %26quot;I%26#039;m mad you are not playing with me%26quot;, then you better go play for a bit.


Good luck trying to deal with it at daycare tho...that%26#039;s tough.





BTW, if my kid came home from a 3 yr old class talking about a boy would takes off his clothes when he gets mad, I would laugh too. :)



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