Brides to Be? Are you getting frustrated at planning you wedding?

I am. I have nothing but whining and complaining from everyone or it seems that way since I first got engaged. To begin with it was the lady I babysit for telling me when I could have my wedding, then my dad because I didn%26#039;t take my mom with me shopping, then my sister because she didn%26#039;t like the shoes that I want her to wear with the dress I picked out for her to wear, she is a bridesmaid, then my photographer cancelled on me, then my piano player just cancelled and I have 2 months until the wedding. It is just like everyone is either complaining about something or getting mad because they can%26#039;t have things their way. I told my fiance I just want to go and elope because I am getting really frustrated. I thought planning a wedding was supposed to be a happy time and it is not being a very happy time for me.

Brides to Be? Are you getting frustrated at planning you wedding?
Yes. I thought that planning our wedding was going to be all fun and exciting...but it%26#039;s more of a headache. I couldn%26#039;t wait for time to fly when we first got engaged, because I couldn%26#039;t wait to get married. Now...I want time to stay still for a little while so that I can catch my breath while trying to get everything planned. I am on a budget so some of the things I want at my wedding are hard to find. I have two sisters and a soon-to-be sister-in-law as my bridesmaids, and all three of them dislike the color of their dresses. I have yet to find a photographer that I both like and can afford. And my mother seems to be making all of the decor. ideas without me. So, yes, you are not the only one frustrated. But...I mean, I guess it%26#039;ll all come together...and our weddings will be unforgettable, none the less. Good luck! Wish me the same ;)
Reply:I haven%26#039;t truly begun the planning process because my sister is getting married this April and I didn%26#039;t want to still her thunder. But the very few things I mention, I still get some rude comment about... like why did you ask this priest instead of that one. Or why isn%26#039;t he just wearing his uniform instead of tux. My wedding is over a year away and I am the type of person to get things done if need be. I wish I had all the money in the world so I could just do what we want and no one would ask questions :)
Reply:To say that I am frustrated with planning my wedding would be a HUGE understatement!!! Best wishes to you :)
Reply:Oh, I%26#039;m right there with you. My fiance and I just got engaged Dec.31. We had 2 weeks that were great. We had picked our wedding date, I was starting to looking into everything and then it all went down hill. He decided that we needed more time to save money for the wedding. So we decided to move the date back by a year. No problem. We started looking at apartments so we could move in together in a few months and I kind of put a stop to the wedding planning. Now, 2 years is too far away and he doesn%26#039;t want to rent. He wants a house and that%26#039;s it. This past week has been pure hell. We%26#039;ve been arguing the whole time. We%26#039;ve finally agreed on a new plan and will most likely be getting married in September of this year... so even though we%26#039;re going to have a smaller wedding then we had planned, I%26#039;m going to have to really start planning. I just want it all to be over and done with. Or, at least for us to have 1 plan and stick to it.
Reply:Aww sorry to hear you are getting stressed and things are not going so smoothly for you :( i still have 15 months until my wedding so i am not stressed yet. Also i spent a wonderful day with my fiance meeting with prospective wedding photographers and it was a really enjoyable way to spend our day off together esp as we agreed on and felt the same about everything we saw! I think doing as much advance planning as possible is the key. I plan to have pretty much everything arranged by this summer except dresses and suit hire as pretty much everyone in the wedding party wants to lose weight before our wedding! Thats my %26#039;plan%26#039; for a hopefully stress free period prior to the wedding. Whether it will work or not is another matter!
Reply:veryyyyyyy
Reply:Don%26#039;t worry - you aren%26#039;t the only one. Everyone I%26#039;ve talked to goes through the same thing. That%26#039;s why I hired a wedding planner, and am doing a destination/elopement wedding. I figure if someone else is planning it, and I just have to make the final decisions, I won%26#039;t be as stressed. It%26#039;s kinda helped... I still stress out, but that%26#039;s pretty much because FH gives me %26quot;Do what you want, Its more about you than me...%26quot; and that is going to drive me nuts!





I%26#039;ve finally given up on talking to him about it. He just has to get on the plane. That%26#039;s about it. I%26#039;ll pack for him, make all the reservations, and make all the travel plans. Typical male! LOL








Good luck, and Congratulations!!! Don%26#039;t worry, it%26#039;ll all come together! :)
Reply:yup...
Reply:I%26#039;ve had enough. I love my fiance and am excited to get married to him - but I wish this freaking day would just come and go already.





My aunt called my mother complaining that she hadn%26#039;t received her invitation yet (over 10 weeks early). I sent them out (to please her) 2 days later. She doesn%26#039;t even know if she is coming so what is the rush?!?!
Reply:I JUST GOT MARRIED TWO WEEKS AGO AND TRUST ME YOU FIND OUT PEOPLES TRUE COLORS WHEN YOU INVITE THEM TO BE IN YOUR WEDDING! YOU ALSO REALIZE THAT PEOPLE TREAT IT AS YOUR DAY AND NOT THEIR DAY. I HAD BOTH OF MY BRIDESMAIDS BACK OUT ON ME ONE FOUR DAYS BEFORE THE WEDDING AND THE OTHER THE DAY BEFORE, JUST BECAUSE THEY DIDN%26#039;T FEEL LIKE DOING IT ANYMORE. IF YOUR SISTER DOESNT LIKE THE SHOES BECAUSE THEY HURT HER FEET AND YOU ARE HAVING A LONG CEREMONY THEN YOU MIGHT WANT TO HELP HER FIND NEW ONES, IF THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THEM AND SHE JUST DOESN%26#039;T LIKE THEM THEN OH WELL. THE PLANNING IS NOT THE BEST PART, IT IS WHAT COMES AFTER. MY HUSBAND AND I NEVER ARGUED ABOUT ANYTHING UNTIL LIKE THE LAST WEEK OF PLANNING AND THEN EVERYTHING JUST GOT TO US. JUST BE PATIENT IT WILL ALL COME TOGETHER, THEN YOU CAN ENJOY!
Reply:aww i feel sorry for you. i loved planning my wedding (i got married on august 18th 2007).. but since i got married one of my bridesmaids doesn%26#039;t talk to me anymore and i have no idea why!


but i did have the support of my family and MOST of my friends! my sister did so much for me for my wedding- she helped make my invitations, did my flowers, did my centre pieces...) my dad even helped to decorate the hall and make butoners (sorry i know my spelling is bad!!)





the only problem i had was with one bridesmaid- she didn%26#039;t even get her bridesmaid dress fitted until one week before the wedding! she complained about everything (so i just ignored her!) hey i couldn%26#039;t let her ruin my special day..
Reply:I did get frustrated. Then I stopped telling people too much information and I told the bridesmaids I was going to pick more about their dresses.





My mom was knocking every dress I looked at, so I just took a cousin and a good friend looking and said no more until I had ordered a dress.





The bridesmaids were e-mailing me horrible looking dresses. I finally told them to hold on, found a designer that I would be satisfied with all the dresses (IE nothing too wacky-looking), told the girls tea or ankle length are your options for length, I specified the fabric, told them to wear black shoes, and I want to give the final OK to the dress. I%26#039;m letting the girls pick their own style of dress as they are a wide array of sizes.





I%26#039;m much happier now and more excited about the planning :)
Reply:I am sorry to hear that. My wedding date is 5th july and I do feel frustrated as well. Just so much to do and ongoing this and that. I was upset many times and told my partner its his fault for wanting a %26#039;big wedding%26#039; as I prefer to sign the paper and go for honeymoon. no dramas.


What to do? just try to enjoy it though there are many stuff to sort out. Try to get some help from friends or close ones if you find it too overwhelming. Cheer up ya! you are getting married!
Reply:Of course it%26#039;s frustrating! There is a ton of stuff to do in a limited amount of time, everyone around you seems to have endless opinions on everything, and all you really want to do is get married, not have a three ring circus.





My advice would just be to listen politely when people tell you their opinion, and then do what YOU want. Pick your battles, don%26#039;t fight over everything. Take it all with a grain of salt! Down the road, it%26#039;s not really going to matter the stress of finding a new pianist, it%26#039;s going to matter that you are married and happy together.





Of course, that doesn%26#039;t really make it much less stressful now, but I hope that you can just keep everything in perspective, because that can help enormously.
Reply:It is supposed to be a fun time but it can get very frustrating. I%26#039;m sorry you%26#039;re having all these difficulties.





The first thing to remember is the reason it%26#039;s happening - you%26#039;re in love and you%26#039;re making a lifetime commitment to someone you cherish. Step back and think about that when you get overwhelmed. In the end the only that should really matter is that you will be married to your partner at the end of the day.





Now, to deal with all the bullsh!t... Put your bridezilla face on and take care of these things. Have your wedding WHEN YOU WANT IT. It%26#039;s going to be your anniversary, not the babysitter%26#039;s. Tell your sister to suck it up or maybe she find another option that you both agree on. Get a photographer with a contract ASAP. Contact your church or venue and see if they have options for the pianist or start calling people in the phonebook - look under lessons or something.





Take a deep breath... It%26#039;s all going to be worth it.
Reply:There was your mistake thinking that planning a wedding would be a fun. It%26#039;s not. It%26#039;s like having another job. Do yourself a huge favor on your wedding day, don%26#039;t spend much time with the complainers. Just smile and move on as quickly as you can. Definitely don%26#039;t need to hear it on that day.





Take a break from it when you feel you need to so you don%26#039;t get burnt out.



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